Lessons Learned from Women’s Book Club

Eight years ago this week, I began my freshman year of college. Eight years ago this week, I began a journey of learning how to shift from being loved by others to being the one who loves others. You see, my freshman year, I was the freshman who was taken out and pampered by the older college students. I took pride in the fact that I was loved by those slightly older than myself. I never had a real desire to invest in anyone else, because, well, why would I when I got all the attention I wanted?

Slowly but surely though, all these older friends began graduating and leaving San Diego. Pretty soon this core support group of mine had all gone their own ways and I was left to strengthen relationships with sisters my own age. And of course, our all-knowing God knew that I’d placed a disproportionate amount of faith in my relationships with others, instead of in my relationship with Him. I sit here today, 26 years old, with almost all of my college friends living and working in other cities, and now one of the older women at RGC.

It’s no longer my place to take and to be served, but instead, to exercise my understanding of Titus 2 by teaching and training the younger women of Redeemer’s Grace.

To be honest, sometimes I am tempted to wallow in self-pity. “I have no friends my age,” and “The girls at RGC who are older than me are too busy to hang out with me,” are some of the lies I have to preach myself out of. And instead of believing that there is no one left to love me, I have learned the importance of investing in the community that God has placed me in now.

RGC’s Women’s Book Club


Our first women’s book club read the book Feminine Appeal by Carolyn Mahaney. In a small group of about six, we discussed such ideas as being a stay at home mom, and loving and submitting to your husband, just to name a few. While many of these topics were not immediately relevant to the vast majority of us, one thing I still look back and smile about is the relationships that I was able to begin. The book club gave me an avenue through which I could to apply the heart of Titus 2: to assist, train, and instruct the younger women of the church and to learn that ultimately, being available to disciple or mentor a younger woman (whether in a formal or informal setting) gives me an opportunity to display the gospel in my life.

It’s no longer my place to take and to be served, but instead, to exercise my understanding of Titus 2 by teaching and training the younger women of Redeemer’s Grace. While this continues to be a way in which I am learning and growing, I am deeply encouraged and challenged to be active in seeking out relationships with all women in the church; not only those who can teach and train me, but also those whom I can teach and train